I just got back from a week at the Jersey Shore (yup) with the organization I work with part-time. I was lucky to get to go on this retreat since my official title ends with “Part-time/Temporary.” And lucky because of the following lesson that was spoken to me not once in the last week, but twice: Ask for what you want.
The first time it happened was with a fellow admin. I had spent 3 days with him in New York City for work, where we got into the conversation of his moving into the city. As current resident of D.C. and an actor he felt a move to New York would be a good thing for him. “I think I will move here one day,” he said as we sat side by side in a Times Square restaurant. “Yes, probably but I have a good job right now so we’ll see what happens.” What has happened since? His boss has been transfered to the New York City office and has requested that this young man make the move with her to continue working with her. And he’s doing it! He gave me the update this past week in New Jersey where I congratulated him and reminded him of our conversation earlier in the year. “Sometimes you just have to say it out loud,” he said to me, smiling. “What do you want Patricia? Come on tell me, I’ll give it to you!” “Wait, wait,” I said. “Let me think about this!”
Later on in the week, the President of the organization stood up to address us all and speak fondly about a woman who is retiring after 25 years of service. In her review with the president she mentioned to him that when she retired she would like to learn to play the piano. Which led the president to stand in front of the entire organization and announce that he would be having a piano delivered to her home in Weehawken next week. As the audience clapped and cheered, my co-worker leaned in to me and said, “Sometimes when you want something, you just have to say it out loud and it can happen.”
Okay, is there a camera on me or something?
So I got home on Friday afternoon feeling irritable, cranky and exhausted from spending 5 days with sort of strangers. But I could not forget these two stories and they kept re-playing themselves in the back of my mind. But today, something hit me and made me realize that I have to do the same thing. I should make my intentions known. Otherwise, they’ll just live forever in the folds of my brain and never see the light of day. So in honor of that jolt of realization, here is my list. One by one, unapologetic, things I would like to bring in to my life.
1. Starting simple: A blender. Yes, I would like a blender. A blender to make my own, almond milk based, fruit and vegetable smoothies to start my day on the right foot. Easy, right?
2. Develop a new website with a new purpose. I am currently working on getting a new website with a new name, look, purpose behind it. I have two websites right now and they have pretty separate goals. I want to combine the two into one to be something like what Mastin Kipp, Gabby B, Kris Carr, Kim Snyder and Tricia Huffman do because I really think they work to serve people and that’s what I want to do. Only make it my own mission, my own thing, my own experiences and stories and ideas, pictures, yoga, artwork in to it. And since I like to write I also like to idea of being a contributing writer on other sites, magazines, etc. I think an iPhone, iPad or new laptop may be good for this. But that’s an entirely different list.
3. I want to travel to San Francisco and Boulder and see what those cities are all about. I met some really awesome people this week who live in both of these towns and who claimed to love living there. I think I would too but would like to start simple with a visit.
4. Grow my personal yoga practice to keep myself on the path AND be able to inspire my own students in their practice. I’m realizing that I really need to be more of a student to make this happen so I really need to re-commit to my practice. Teaching 7 classes a week and taking ZERO will not do much good for myself or my students. I want yoga to always be a big part of my life and I also want to help make it a part of others lives too. In order to help others with this, I need to dive in a little deeper – okay, a LOT deeper.
5. Continue to paint, knit, create, play, draw, take pictures, write, have fun, pray, meditate and go forward trusting that everything will turn out exactly how it should. It’s either all this or something better, right? Right, exactly.